Im not a Hooker, Im an Escort!
I was told by one of my readers that they don’t like my constant usage of the word Hooker, and as much as I would love to bow down to your desire to sugar coat the obvious, (YOU’RE A HOOKER) I just don’t roll like that. As a matter of fact, from this day fourth my blogs are going to be rawer, more true, and more to the point. I’m getting kind of bored with the whole witty and educational posts, but at the same time I’m going to stay true to the format that’s made my blogs a hit with my readers, which means bringing you information.
As for you miss “don’t call me a hooker”, the first thing you need is to learn the art of having thick skin, especially if you find yourself getting offended by every little thing. I’m not here to hurt anyone, I’m here to give you the scoop on an industry that I’m familiar with, and if I throw in a few offensive words….. roll with it.
I will never tell you anything wrong, or anything that I haven’t tried myself, so trust that whatever works for me I’m going to share with my readers in my own special dialog. And if you find yourself getting aggravated by it, then you are more than welcome to stop reading, but I’m not gonna change!
Other than that……
Happy Hooking!
As for you miss “don’t call me a hooker”, the first thing you need is to learn the art of having thick skin, especially if you find yourself getting offended by every little thing. I’m not here to hurt anyone, I’m here to give you the scoop on an industry that I’m familiar with, and if I throw in a few offensive words….. roll with it.
I will never tell you anything wrong, or anything that I haven’t tried myself, so trust that whatever works for me I’m going to share with my readers in my own special dialog. And if you find yourself getting aggravated by it, then you are more than welcome to stop reading, but I’m not gonna change!
Other than that……
Happy Hooking!
Hello, I just found your blog after you left a comment on mine and think it's great! I totally agree with this post as well. I'm also tired of the language issue. I just try to use all the terms as much as I can on my blog so anybody searching will stumble on it. Happy Hooking indeed :-)
ReplyDelete(Peridot) It's an honor to ave you read my blogs. I've been following you for a while and love what you have to say. Thanks for the comment!
ReplyDeleteI personally don't like the term "hooker" one bit.... which is why I don't use it (funny you wrote about it, because last week I wrote something to myself about why I vehemently dislike that particular word).
ReplyDeleteBesides, I don't think that my clients think of themselves as "hooker clients". I do believe in sugar coating, glamor, and euphemisms when it comes to writing in a form and forum where I am marketing myself.
I personally prefer "escort" or "companion".
If I blogged anonymously like Peridot, perhaps things would be different. The raw wording and defiantly using such wording have a certain power in their rebellion of embracing such traditionally negative words.
Whatever, wording is all personal volition. I'll never negate someone for wearing army boots with a dress. Just not anything I choose to do :)
Semantics! I obviously (ie my blog title) use the term hooker in reference to myself and others. I also use
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Whore
Provider
Escort
Call girl
and anything else i think fits and will provoke the emotional response and describe the feeling im trying to impart.
Bottom line i fuck for money... and no amount of putting a pretty bow and dreseing that up will make what i do any different.
so hooker.. yeah im one.
Dont fret so much over finding your blog voice, you will find it, youre off to a great start! It takes a while to refine your point of view and the beauty is, its ever evolving.
XOXO
jenny
Though I'd understand why you don't like the use of the word, I have to agree with the previous commenter: It is just what it is, a word describing your profession.
ReplyDeleteI don't mean this as an offense, and if a particular word if offending you and makes you think your clients look down on you, I agree you should just ban it from your vocabulary.
But it is just a word after all, it doesn't define you. It only defines your job.
I think it's also part of your personal acceptance to not get offended by it, even though it definitely has a more negative connotation that "Escort" or even "call girl".
Hmm... interesting comment H left (and I love his blog- my boyfriend and I read it together)... and I do seem to be the only one here who doesn't like that word :P.
ReplyDeleteThe one client I had who used it to my face I corrected. Dictionary.com's synonym for "hooker" is "streetwalker". If I had not been getting paid to talk to him, I would have used a male-gender derogatory word (which I can't think of any, since English has such double standards).
I also feel, and maybe this is over paranoia on my part, that the term "hooker" has sexual connotations that could be used against me. I think the same is true even for "courtesan", since both by definition imply sex.
Again, if I were writing anonymously and perhaps if I were in a larger metro area, I would possibly use that word and others (haha- how I love the word "slut" - lol)...
Maybe, despite everything, I still wear rose colored sunglasses with men who see escorts and with my current avocation. I can't be totally prude or hypocritical: It's the most deep and meaningless act... but it's my own personal most headtrippy delusion of being in "Libertine Liz" mode to believe that the goal of even the most feckless of f***s is a Masters and Johnson therapeutically sensate focused mutually memorable experience :P
... and I hope to gosh that I'm not being mistaken as anti-feminist, or anti anything (except stating my reasons for totally banning the word "hooker" from my vocabulary in my escort persona)...
This is an interesting discussion :P
(Liz) I agree with you 100%. "Hooker" is a terrible word, and I hate just as much as I hate the "N" word. I'd probably go ape shit if anyone outside of the industry called me a hooker.
ReplyDeleteBut for some strange reason "Hooker" isn't that offensive when it's used within my "extended family" of providers and industry folks.
@Liz:
ReplyDeleteThanks for the praise for my blog. I am glad you and your boyfriend like it (and thanks for being my first follower ;-) ).
btw, I noticed you have one too, which is "on invitation"-only. Would you mind inviting me sometime if you consider that reading it fits in the "scope" of my own blog ? I don't know if it does, I'll let you judge. (I can only send e-mails for the moment with my e-mail account though, it's still having trouble with incoming emails, so I'll get back to you later I guess.)
I actually didn't know the definition linked to "streetwalker". Indeed, I'd agree it is even more difficult to bear if that isn't your condition.
Thanks a bunch H-- email me at libertinechic@gmail.com and I'll invite you.
ReplyDeleteI was going to permanently remove my blog, but... lol thanks to encouragement from my boyfriend and a few others, am keeping it password protected and restricted.